Wow! Has it really been two months since I posted!? How time flies when you’re in pain!
Although I may have slacked on writing, you guys definitely haven’t slacked when it comes to reading my blog! It amazes me that I still have readers! You guys are so amazing and loyal! The thing that keeps me writing is all the feedback I get. It’s so comforting knowing that there are others out there that know exactly what you’re going though. It’s so difficult dealing with everything that comes with living with a chronic illness or “limited spoons”, no one wants to feel like they’re alone in this.
During my journey with chronic illness and pain, one of THE most important things I think I’ve learned is you have to maintain a sense of humor or you can easily find yourself wallowing in self pity. I like to call it “sick humor”…get it? Ok, ok…it’s lame but makes me chuckle!
I do the best I can to see the lighter side of being sick but will admit, there are times I still find myself in a fetal position at the bottom of the pit called “woe is me”. You can see what I mean by reading some of my past rants, I mean posts, past posts. Once I am able to let it all out, I get up, wipe away the tears and tell my body to “bring it on”…I am ready to get on with life again! There are times we just have to get it out, let go of all the frustration and anger and give ourselves a minute to grieve for everything that we’ve lost. Don’t make the mistake of staying there too long…get it out and get on with it!
As I mentioned earlier, a good sense of humor can be your saving grace! It’s not always easy but being able to find humor amidst all the pain and frustrating crap we deal with on a daily basis is, in my opinion, truly necessary. One area I needed a lot of improvement in finding humor, or at least not taking things so seriously, was during doctor’s appointments and medical procedures. I used to get so upset and frustrated with medical office staff. They always seem to mess up appointments or there are discrepancies over charges or they simply just don’t give me any information regarding procedures, test results, etc. I was so bad, John started telling me to “be nice to the doctor and his staff” the mornings of my appointments. I’m sure I was labeled a “problem patient” in my chart! Hopefully, now they don’t cringe when I walk in. I finally decided I needed to look at my appointments differently. It’s actually as simple as that…shifting how you view things. I now go into the office thinking how can I make someone smile instead of what’s going to go wrong today? I also use the “two week rule” if something does go wrong. It’s simply where I ask myself, am I really going to care about this in two weeks? If not, is it worth getting upset about now?
Sometimes “brain fog” can offer up moments of humor. I recently asked others in my chronic pain support group, what are some of your funniest brain fog moments? For some reason or another, we seem to like misplacing items like keys and phones in the fridge! On the flip side, we also put things that belong in the fridge in the cupboard at times. I have put the milk in the cupboard and the cereal in the fridge! What is that all about? Instead of getting mad that the milk spoiled or your phone has to “defrost” before you can use it again…just try to see it for what it is, a silly mistake. The last time I checked, we’re all human and no one is perfect! Try not take being sick so seriously. Yes, there are times that we need to be serious, like when considering new treatments, medications, etc. but if you can shift your perspective a little each day and be willing to see the lighter side of it all, you will find you’re sometimes able to enjoy this life you’ve been given.